The yoke of marriage means being attached to each other by the love of Christ.
Jesus is quoted as saying this yoke it is easy and light, and true enough, sometimes it’s so light we don’t even notice it. This marriage yoke becomes chaffing when the road is filled with potholes, causing one of us to stumble and pull the other down at the same time. Sometimes the road is unmarked, and we are uncertain which way to go. At that time, the yoke is not so easy.
My husband Jay and I have had to wind through so many challenges: raising two sons, Jay’s kidney stones, near bankruptcy, being jobless, despondent, re-establishing our finances, legal issues, another period of near bankruptcy, loss of savings, re-establishing finances yet again, my cancer and aging parents.
Through it all, we have depended on that yoke of Christ to keep us stable, to keep us close to each other. There were times when we voiced our differences to each other, sometimes loudly, but most of the time we prayed together at night and settled those differences.
Every so often, the yoke requires that we turn with our spouse, such as when pursuing a change in career that our beloved really wants to do, or when being a partner in a recreation that gives joy to the other. We build our relationship on that yoke of love.
People at church see the yoke that Jay and I wear. They know that where one of us is, the other must be nearby. And we still hold hands whenever we are close.
Over the years, the yoke does not wear out, but it is polished to a smoothness and a lightness that makes it a delight.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden light.” (Matthew 11:30)
- How important is it to me that my relationship with my sweetheart is based on awareness of Christ’s closeness?
- Where in my relationship does Jesus want me to yield to the direction of my sweetheart?
Strengthen your relationship:
Describe to each other the journey your relationship has been on. When has the yoke that joins together felt easy? When has it felt hard and chaffing — and why? Pray together, giving thanks to God for everything that has happened and will happen on your journey, even when it has sometimes been difficult to see any good.
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© 2018 by Kathy Taylor of Good News Ministries
Note from Terry Modica: While I was busy raising funds to keep Good News Ministries going, I had no time to prepare new Reflections for Couples. Praise the Lord, so many wonderful people contributed to the fundraiser that we exceeded the minimum goal! Meanwhile, GNM staff member Kathy Taylor has written two reflections. This is her first post.