What do you expect?

By guest blogger Kathy Taylor

In the first few years of being married, I began to understand a few things about Jay and me. There were things we had to learn to deal with that we had not experienced before.

expectationsJay was a submariner and I was a very proud of him. However, one night he came home very late, having been out with some of the crew.  This was in the 1970s, and at that time, there were no cell phones or even pagers to get in touch with someone. Just the good old landline. And it must have been in use all night.

We were both independent individuals, but I expected to spend some time with him that evening, and he expected to enjoy his evening with the guys, like he was used to doing. Different expectations and no communication – a trouble maker.

He came home late, and all of the “marriage experiences” that I had gained from relatives and television indicated that Jay should sleep on the couch that night, to experience missing me and to be apologetic in the morning.

When he arrived home, I firmly told him to sleep on the couch. Then he overturned my expectations further by replying that he had no intention of sleeping on the couch, I could if I wanted to, but he was sleeping in his bed. No drama, no fireworks, just poof it was done.

It just amazed me that Jay had a mind of his own! What the heck! What was I supposed to do now?

Well, I went to bed, because I certainly wasn’t in the wrong!

In the morning, we talked and laughed about my confusion, but also we began to look a little deeper at how we treated each other and why. And maybe relatives and television aren’t the best guides to married life!

“Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

 Reflection questions:

  1. What expectations of my sweetheart do I have that need to be expressed more clearly?
  2. What has my sweetheart expected of me that surprised me? How do I feel about it?

Strengthen your relationship:
Describe a time when your beloved expected something from you that surprised you. Was it a happy experience or a stressful time? How did you react? Why? What do you wish you could have done differently?

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© 2018 by Kathy Taylor of Good News Ministries

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