We start out each day with the best of intentions. None of us plan to give our sweethearts a new problem to deal with. We don’t schedule a grumpy mood or plot an opportunity to be irritating.
But life happens. Life here on Earth is messy. We all have more growth needed to become the holy spouses that the Lord calls us to be.
Jesus as Redeemer is often overlooked in relationships. We understand the importance of repentance and forgiveness, but why stop there? Even after we make up with our sweethearts, there’s usually a lingering feeling of sadness or hurt or the fear that it will happen again.
The cliché that “time heals all wounds” is simply not true. Time buries the lingering spirit of the wounds, but new incidents that are vaguely reminiscent of the old hurts bring them back to life, often reincarnated into a form that makes their connection to past hurts difficult to recognize.
After every difficulty — whether they be as small as a bad mood or as huge as wound-inflicting selfishness — we would do well to ask Jesus to redeem what happened into a blessing that brings his radical love fully into it. And if we pray for this together as a couple, even better!
- What was the last thing I did that hurt or irritated my sweetheart? Has it been healed yet by love?
- When was the last time my beloved hurt or irritated me? What blessing might or has come from it?
Strengthen your relationship:
Invent a prayer that you both could comfortably say together in which you ask Jesus to redeem a difficult time in your relationship. Write it down, type it up, print it out, and keep it where it can be used time and again.
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© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries