In my opinion, the most wonderful words to hear are not “I love you.” Anyone can say it and not truly mean it. Much more powerful and meaningful is “I’ll take care of it,” followed by actions that make a difference.
We are hugely blessed when our beloved says, in effect: “I’ll do it, and I’ll do it well, and I won’t make you feel stupid for not doing it yourself.” This type of caring relieves burdens. It brings hope, joy, and freedom. This is love in the deepest sense. It’s what Jesus said, by implication, when he went to the cross for our sins.
Marriage is a partnership of filling in the gaps of inadequacies that each of us have. Throughout scripture, God says, “When you are weak, I am strong.” So, we give Christ to our beloved when we say, “Where you are weak, I’ll be strong. Relax. Don’t worry about it. I’ll take care of it.”
Revealing Christ to one another is the vocation of marriage. The desire to be helpful comes from God. “I’m here for you; I’ll take care of it” is Christ making a difference through us. It’s radical love.
Marriages are supposed to be testimonies to the world (starting with those who see us often) about what God is like. Those who witness our partnership of “I’ll take care of it for you” are evangelized by it. This is love in the deepest, most far-reaching sense.
It becomes most evident when our beloved has been weakened by disease or disability and can give very little back to us. “It’s okay, I’ll take care of it” — given sacrificially — is the deepest, purest, most profound love.
- What has my sweetheart taken care of for me recently? Have I shown appreciation for it?
- How have I indicated to my beloved: “I’m here for you; I’ll take care of it”? How joyful did I feel doing it?
Strengthen your relationship:
Describe how it felt when recently your sweetheart said or did something that conveyed: “Don’t worry about it. I’ll take care of it.” After you have both shared about this, pray together asking the Holy Spirit to enliven in you the joy of being strong when the other is weak and receiving strength graciously when needed.
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© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries