Are you relaxing with your sweetheart?
Let’s face it, the holidays are stressful. Meant to be fun, joyous, and a welcome change from the routines of the rest of the year, to celebrate means planning, cleaning, extra cooking and baking, and decorating. It means adding parties to the schedule and shopping and writing Christmas cards. And whose side of the family will we spend Christmas with? Who’s going to get angry with us because of divisions in the family? Whom are we mourning because he/she isn’t with us this year?
Finding the right gift to give our sweetheart on Christmas is part of the joy we experience during Advent. Or it might be part of the stress — especially if you and your beloved have been getting what you need throughout the year, and the only ideas coming to you now are frivolous, future dust-collectors or too expensive for your budget.
So, maybe the right gift to give our sweetheart is time. Time for romance. Time devoted to being alone together.
In the list of activities mentioned above, and adding to it whatever else is filling your schedule, what if you cross something off the list for the sake of romance? Maybe do less decorating. Maybe less baking. Maybe ignore sending Christmas cards.
I stopped sending Christmas cards a few years ago. Have I hurt someone’s feelings because they didn’t get a card from Ralph and Terry? Did they even notice that they didn’t get a card from us, amidst all the cards they did get? If they noticed and held it against us, did they ever really love us? If they don’t love us, then why are we allowing ourselves to be their victims?
Think it through to the worst case scenario, and then ask yourself if time for romance is more important. In other words, give you and your sweetheart permission to enjoy the holidays romantically.
- What do I need more of from my beloved during this holiday season?
- Is my beloved getting enough of my time and attention?
Strengthen your relationship:
Discuss all the holiday activities and opportunities that you’re engaged in or invited to. How do you feel about them? Which ones are romantic? Which do you enjoy doing most as a couple? Decide together which activities to eliminate or reduce in order to prioritize the ones that are most beneficial to you as a couple (and to your children if you are raising a family). Then seal the commitment with a prayer that asks Jesus to help you be docile to the Holy Spirit guidance about priorities each day and every moment.
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© 2016 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries