Helpmates in love

Wifes are helpmates for their husbandsGod said: “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). But do we really understand all that this means? Wives are gifted and called to provide the help from God that is perfectly suited for their man. This is an essential grace in the Vocation of Marriage.

It goes both ways, of course. Husbands help their wives, but women are gifted differently than men. Women have, by God’s design, a strong nurturing quality, more than men do. We women have been created in the image of God the Creator, God the motherly caregiver. In the Book of Wisdom, the Holy Spirit is described in feminine terms, because (unbeknownst to the humans who penned this book of the Old Testament) in biological fact, women have more neural connections between the two hemispheres of the brain, resulting in a stronger intuitive understanding of things.

Men are created in the image of God as protector, God as provider, God as the self-sacrificing Christ of the domestic church, the home (see Ephesians 5:25-27). As head of the home in the image of Christ, husbands have been given helpmates to fulfill God’s mission in the home and in the world, just as Jesus was helped by the Apostles and is helped by all the faithful today.

My sweetheart, Ralph, likes to tell other husbands that their wives are helpmates given to them by God himself. And he smiles at the wives and says, with his eyes full of the love of Christ, “You are your husband’s helpmate, given to him by God. You are very important.”

Nothing can make a husband’s heart as happy as knowing God’s earthly purpose for him and having a wife who shares his dream. And nothing can make a wife as happy as partnering with her beloved in the fulfillment of their calling as a couple. God gives woman to man for their mutual happiness, to share life and produce more life with someone who complements them.

Reflection Questions:

  1. How am I like God because I’m made in his image, yet different than my beloved?
  2. How is my beloved like God, made in his image, yet different from me?

Strengthen your relationship:
Discuss your answers to the above questions. How do you see God in the other? How do you learn more about God by watching the other?

Close your discussion with a prayer of thanksgiving for the help God provides to both of you through each other.

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© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries

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    Thank you for today’s blessing in this sharing. The role we play as God’s image was not by mistake. We must fulfil it according to God’s plan for us. God bless you.

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