The happy perspective that enhances marriage

We live in an age of instant gratification, and this works against the happiness God wants for us in marriage. Preferring shortcuts and quick solutions might seem beneficial, but that’s an illusion that the world has imposed on us. Pain and trials scream out for a fast end, but the best future and the happiest perspective are what can be gained from the long haul.

The happy perspective - couple running marathonTaking the more difficult route and running the marathon of difficult challenges build character, strengthen our resolve, and teach us many valuable lessons along the way. This is especially true in our relationship with our sweetheart. 

The world impresses on us the joy of shortcutting the romance of the honeymoon by living as if the honeymoon begins early in the dating process, with sex whenever we feel like it before marriage. Lost is the opportunity to learn patience, restraint, and self-sacrifice, which will be needed to make the marriage survive tough times and the temptations of extra-marital affairs.

The world claims that our personal dreams for wealth, popularity, the easy life, or a particular career are so highly important that we must let nothing distract us from our goals — not even children. Much more is lost than what we could learn from making our beloved a higher priority than our goals. Lives are lost. God the Father dreams of creating children in partnership with us; he can envision them being loved by us and giving their love to us and spreading his love wider into the world. How many people have been conceived by God’s dreams but never in a womb?

As couples, we need to surround ourselves with those who value the happy perspective of what can be gained from the long haul, from self-sacrifice, and from listening to God’s dreams. This is the world whose influence can help us have the best life and the best marriage possible — far better than we can imagine, thanks be to God.

Reflection Questions:

  1. Who in my life has been a bad example of taking shortcuts and opting out of the long journey of perseverance?
  2. How can I help my beloved gain more strength, determination, and endurance to avoid shortcuts?

Strengthen your relationship:
Share with each other the values you see in taking the more difficult route and the marathon run. Apply this to a situation happening now in your lives. What might be gained by avoiding shortcuts? Pray together asking for strength from Jesus to help you gain from the challenges of the difficulties you’re facing.

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© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries

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  • Gift

    We always learn from what happened in the past. However, it is far much better to live a life that God always intends for us. His guiding hand will lead us to peace, joy, happiness, and plenty. It may not be obvious, but God’s time is the best. And you never reglet anything. God bless you.

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