Being cracked isn’t all bad!

Being cracked isn't all bad! - Wedding Jars - by Marianne Arthur

By GNM artist Marianne Arthur

No two people are perfect when they marry. Being married does help perfect us, but it also causes new imperfections as we suffer misunderstandings, disagreements, and other hurts.

All of us entered the relationship with cracks and holes from the wounds and sins we brought into it. Some of us are more damaged than others, and this makes marriage more difficult. But Christ finds value in our brokenness.

God says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in your weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

In the Sacrament of Marriage, this is especially true. God’s grace is abundantly available through this and all other sacraments. In marriage, when two broken people marry in a sacramental union with Christ, they immerse themselves in grace.

Think of Jesus as a large, perfect vessel. My husband and I placed our coupleness into Jesus when we married in the Church. The same can be true for you. Think of the Holy Spirit as life-giving water. We were filled with the Holy Spirit in our baptisms, but we cannot stay filled because of our brokenness, the holes in our lives. Then a miracle of grace happens. As the water leaks out of our holes, it pools at the base of the vessel that is Jesus. He multiplies this water with his own radical love, and we are immediately filled with and surrounded by his Holy Spirit. We are immediately immersed completely in his grace.

But the story doesn’t end there! Jesus continues filling us to overflowing. The grace that we choose to dwell in as broken people continually purifies us and also pours out onto others.

We have been given a mission. As broken people who have learned to live as a couple in Christ, the very same wounds that damaged us become healing for others. The sins we repent from become lessons that purify others. When we learn from our weaknesses and help others benefit from what we learned, God’s powerful strength changes the world around us — through us.

Reflection Questions:

  1. What brokenness have I brought into my relationship with my sweetheart?
  2. How can I turn this, with God’s help, into a blessing for my sweetheart and for others?

Strengthen your relationship:
Describe how you see God’s grace at work in each other. Then prayer together asking the Holy Spirit to fill your relationship with the fullness of his grace. Make a commitment and a plan to pray for this every day.

❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries

Print Friendly, PDF & Email
This may be printed for personal use only. To distribute multiple copies for others, please order it professionally published from Catholic Digital Resources at *** Can't pay for it? No worries! Apply for a free gift voucher, which is our charitable donation to your ministry.



  • Tommy

    Whenever I read this article, it refreshes our love and hence the real meaning of marriage in the church is seen enjoyable and meaningful. Thanks so much God bless you.

  • Leave a Reply

    Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *