“Dear friends, since God has loved us so much, we should also love one another. No one has seen God; but when we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” (1 John 4:11-12)
How can that be? Isn’t God’s love complete without us? How can it ever be incomplete, since God is perfect and full of love, which means he is fully loving all the time?
Is this scripture saying that his love is actually incomplete (insufficient) except when we love one another? In a way, yes. God has love for everyone, but not everyone receives his love. So, we are called to serve as his representatives. Through the love we give, his love succeeds in getting through.
We are – for one another – God’s loving presence. Because he is invisible, we are his hands that reach out in love, his arms that give his embrace to others, and his voice that speaks the words of love.
God loves everyone directly, of course, all by himself. But he also loves through us, and when that glorious experience happens, wow!
Spouses are called and graced by the Vocation of Marriage to represent Christ for each other. Every act we do in love is sacred. Anything we do that cannot be called “sacred” is unloving. Even our relationship in the bedroom – how we serve one another there in intimacy – is meant to be a sacred gift of God’s love.
Reflection questions for couples:
- What are some of the reasons why I do not fully receive God’s love directly from him?
- What can I do today to be God’s representative for my sweetheart?
Strengthen your relationship:
Hug each other and say: “With this hug, I am giving you God’s hug.” Then say a prayer together, while still hugging, asking God to help you both become more aware of his love. (Ralph and I do this and call it our “hug prayer”.)
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© 2016 by Terry Modica
Good News Ministries