Write a paragraph or two to describe your love relationship. How many times does a sentence focus on you? How many times does a sentence describe your beloved? This says a lot about your relationship’s potential ability to grow in strength during hardships rather than lead you toward divorce.
For example: “I feel great when I’m around her/him” — you are excited about your own gratification. You’re in love with the idea of being in love. This needs to mature into an outward focus.
Or: “She is amazing to be around.” Or “He exudes the peace of Christ.” Or “My spouse helps me grow closer to Christ.” The love you have for your beloved supersedes your own agenda to be loved.
Even “I feel great knowing that I put a smile on her face. She/he is the best thing that ever happened to me and brings out the best in me” is more about her/him than it is about you.
Marriages succeed when our beloved is more important to us than our pride. Marriages thrive when we love our beloved so much we’ve given him/her the freedom to make a positive difference in our character. This is a good foundation for the Vocation of Marriage, which is the calling to help one another grow closer to Christ.
- What do I like about my beloved?
- What does my beloved like about me?
Strengthen your relationship:
Write a love letter to your beloved, describing your relationship. Exchange the letters, then share what is most meaningful in what your sweetheart wrote. Finish with a prayer, asking Jesus to strengthen what is weak in your relationship and to bless what is already strong.
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© 2016 by Terry Modica
Good News Ministries