I wonder if my kids felt lucky while they were growing up. I gained a lot of wisdom during their young adult years, although I wasn’t stupid when they were children. Had I known then what I know now… well only God knows what difference that would have made. That’s why God invented grandchildren. Some of the best lessons and warmest, love-filled wisdom I gained as a child came from my grandparents, because they had become older and therefore wiser. My parents were still experimenting, like all parents must do.
Unfortunately, I don’t have any grandchildren (yet). There are many grandparent-want-to-be folks in my generation in my culture, because our now-adult children don’t want to have children, or they’re having them later in life, or they’re having just one, and parents with just one child never face the challenges that call for wisdom greater than what is humanly possible, such as: “Which one of you kids broke this lamp?”
If there’s one piece of wisdom I wish I had known when my kids lived at home, it’s this: There’s a huge difference between, “You got an A in school because you’re smart,” and “You got an A because you studied hard.”
Our world needs children who become adults who believe in hard work and who make sacrifices to accomplish what is not easy. Christ’s mission of making the world a better place and leading souls to heaven is hampered by the very prevalent idea that life should be easy. Divorce happens so very often because one or both spouses believe that they were “unlucky in marriage” and love relationships should be easy.
My marriage has lasted 40 years and is stronger than ever because Ralph and I have had to work hard to keep it going. Luck has nothing to do with it.
Parenting is very hard work, too, but having children — indeed, even having more children — is extremely well worth it. It’s one of God’s greatest blessings. And the mistakes we make as not-old-enough-to-be-wiser parents become blessings to our children when they become old enough and wise enough to learn from them.
- Do I believe that children are blessings from God? Why or why not?
- How does my sweetheart feel about children?
- If I can never have children (or grandchildren), what could I do with the family-oriented desires and wisdom that God has given me?
Strengthen your relationship:
If you’re old enough to be grandparents, think of a family who could benefit from your wisdom. Think outside the box of your immediate family. What could you do together to get more involved as mentors? If you’re young enough to be raising children, think of an older couple who could serve as good mentors. Invite them to become closer friends with you. Pray for a successful follow-through on the ideas generated by this discussion.
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© 2017 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries