“The covenant of love between man and woman, a covenant for life, is not improvised, it is not made overnight. There is no express marriage: you need to work on love, you need to walk [on this path].” (Pope Francis, May 27, 2015)
We live in times when the world offers fast as a value to cherish. We have fast food restaurants, fast-acting headache remedies, and fast-paced movies that start with fast-paced action scenes from the first moment of the story. How many times each day do you encounter something fast? Or use something because it is fast?
We have lost the art of slowing down. We have lost the ability to appreciate s-l-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-w.
Many marriages fail the speed test: We want (we demand!) fast solutions to marriage problems, and if our spouse doesn’t change fast enough, we think he/she never will and the situation becomes intolerable. If our spouse doesn’t agree with us fast enough, instead of giving him/her time (and lots of it, as much as he/she needs) to ponder and pray about it — or for God to get through his/her thick skull about it — we feel hurt and frustrated. We give up too fast. We cannot tolerate long-suffering endurance.
Rarely does God work as fast as we do (or wish we could do). What does that tell us? (“I don’t know. I don’t have time to think about it.”)
S-l-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-w down! Trust God! When we spend time listening and waiting for God, we become better at listening to our spouses and discovering new solutions to problems that we otherwise would have missed.
© 2015 by Terry Modica of Good News Ministries